Guys, wedding planning is hard. There’s so many details like guest lists, color schemes, napkin folds, I mean the list goes on and on. No one likes to go through that alone, so here are 5 things you should definitely steer clear of saying to make this process a little smoother for your partner!
PS. This applies for you brides, too!
“Sounds good, whatever you think.”
If your bride were only interested in her own opinion, she wouldn’t take the time to ask about yours. Contrary to pop culture cliches, most brides desperately want their groom more involved with the wedding planning. While you may have less conviction about some subjects than others, it is important to not fall mute regarding major decisions. After all, your wedding is the first step in your new life together, and I’m betting you want to have a say in that.
Constant criticism of how much is being spent really rains on the wedding planning parade for all parties involved, particularly your bride. Instead, agree upon and map out a budget for the wedding so you both have a clear understanding of how much money is being spent where. Financial disagreements are the number-one precursor to divorce; start off on the right foot.
“It’s been a long day…I just want to relax. Can all this planning wait?”
Let me clarify…everyone gets a pass on this statement a couple times. By the third, fourth, fifth time you’re asked for help your excuses to postpone wear thin, (along with your partner’s patience). Your fiancée is staring down a mountain of work. From decor to family drama to slimming down for the big day, sacrifices are being made all around you, and you should pitch in. After all, the wedding is for the both of you.
“Didn’t I mention that? I must have forgotten.”
It is important that you stay on the same page — whether it’s a headcount, guests’ travel plans, or Mom’s sudden one-eighty regarding help with the rehearsal dinner. A wedding can be a logistical nightmare, and “forgetting” to mention vital details can derail a timeline and add undue stress for your partner. When you have new wedding information, be considerate, and make a point to share this with your fiancée, pronto.
“This really doesn’t matter to me. I don’t want to help.”
Agreed, tying ribbons around hundreds of wedding programs or filling custom seed packets for favors may not be your cup of tea (or hers). But, these are the details that make your day personal and heartfelt, including those that are somewhat time-consuming. When you love someone, sometimes you do things that don’t aren’t especially important to you, because they are important to the person who matters most.
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